Sexuality as Capacity: From Release to Presence
There is a way most men experience sexuality. Arousal builds, tension rises, and everything moves toward one point: release. After that, energy drops, the body relaxes, and presence fades. The cycle resets. This has become normal. But normal doesn’t mean conscious. The Real Question What if sexuality is not about release, but about your ability […]
Holding: The Capacity to Be
The Moment There is a moment most people don’t notice, a moment between what we feel and what we do. In that moment, something is possible. But most of the time, we don’t stay there. The Habit of Movement When something arises, an emotion, a sensation, a desire, the system wants to move. To express, […]
Children and Relationships
The Closest Mirrors We Have What You Can No Longer Avoid Becoming a parent changes something fundamental. Not only in your life, but in what you can no longer avoid. Children don’t meet you where you want to be. They meet you where you actually are, in your patience, in your limits, and in your […]
Relationships and Growth
Today my parents celebrate 57 years of marriage. I imagine their wedding day, the beginning of something that would hold through time, through change, through life itself. And I can see that it worked. Not perfectly, but with a kind of stability that allowed them to stay, to build, to continue. And at the same […]
Do We Need Extremes to Understand? Or Do Extremes Only Show Us What Doesn’t Work?
Human beings often learn through contrast. We move toward intensity, toward strong experiences, toward the edges of life. Sometimes we seek them deliberately. Sometimes life pushes us there. Extreme success, extreme suffering, extreme pleasure, extreme discipline. Many spiritual traditions and personal stories suggest that truth is discovered only after reaching these edges. But is that […]
Beyond Flowers: An Evolutionary View of Women’s Day
Beyond Flowers: An Evolutionary View of Women’s Day Every year on international women’s day the world fills with messages, celebrations, appreciation, and sometimes debate. Today I had a conversation with a woman about what this day means to her. For her, the meaning was quite simple. She said it is a day where women receive […]
What Is Best — To Love or To Be Loved?
Saturday sun warm on my face. Lovely company, walking slowly by the beach, on our way to dig into fried yuca with spicy sauce. White doves playing in the park, chaotic and somehow peaceful at the same time. In the middle of that simple, golden moment, a nine-year-old girl asked, “What is best — to […]